I was Ready for a Fight (A Mindset to Overcome Adversity)
(Inside: How to deal with adversity. A mindset to help you overcome conflict like the champion you are.)
I was ready for a fight.
The T-birds versus The Scorpions. (Danny Zuko, anyone?)
It was my side against theirs and I was on deck. My why-we-are-right reasons were queued up. My comebacks loaded. My back pocket held insults and sarcasm. My tongue, sharpened. And I was ready to go there – anything to get the “other side” to see THE LIGHT.
Leading up to this meeting, I practiced my lines with self-righteous, warrior-esque vigor. Somewhere in rehearsing my brilliant sarcastic points guaranteeing me verbal glory, the name “Abigail” crept into my brain. It fluttered around my mind distracting me from my previous performance. (Annoying and when I was just getting good…) Instead, it urged me to stop, pay attention and remember her story.
It was a lesson I’d researched and taught at a women’s ministry event.
The Mindset of a Strong Woman (How she dealt with conflict.)
Abigail was a #girlpower woman married to the cross between Beauty and the Beast’s, Gaston, and The Grinch who stole Christmas. (Real name: Nabal.) A wealthy couple with much land, livestock, property, and servants – their cup runneth over. King David – before he was king – was camping out with his men near Abigail and Nabal’s home. They’d been kind and protective of Nabal’s servants and possessions. As hospitality was custom, King David asked Nabal for a favor. On feast day, King David sent some of his men to request Nabal to provide David’s group with food. Nabal didn’t just say no. He hurled insults, sarcasm and lashed the men with his l-am-wonderful-and-you-are-a-loser tongue of steel.
David received the insults well.
David was strap-on-his-sword-and-let’s-talk-about-this-with-real-steel outraged. But Abigail got wind of the situation and swiftly interceded with David and his men. She offered wise words and kindness. She extended food and hospitality. She was diplomatic – an ambassador, a peacemaker…a fierce voice of reason. In a time when women were sometimes considered more property than people, DAVID LISTENED TO HER. Her kindness, wisdom and purposeful actions won. (I Samuel 25)
The story flurried around my brain challenging me, coaxing me, flat out chanting: Abigail was legit. She persuaded an army. AN ARMY. Her smart actions and words changed the minds of powerful people. What a woman, this Abigail. Could I play my cards like her? Could I have real influence through carefully chosen words? (What’s that I feel? Is it me wanting to be like her?)
A Mindset to Overcome Adversity (How to deal with conflict.)
So, I revised my original plan. In the meeting, I focused on speaking convincing wisdom. I forced kindness from my lips. Or held my tongue. A lot. I tried to listen and understand and compromise. I didn’t do this flawlessly, but I did it well enough. The meeting went better than expected and I left feeling okay.
When people say “lives are transformed by the power of the gospel,” I think this is one way it plays out in the everyday.
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God seeps into our minds and fills us with His truth and His wisdom. It flutters down to our hearts where it overflows into our actions.
Yet, don’t for a second think I’m never rude. I’m actually better than I want to be at the comeback. Or that every conflict ends with a hug and kiss. Oh goodness, invent how to make that happen and be a millionaire.
But this time – this blessed time – when the Holy Spirit whispered His persistent wisdom into my thoughts, I listened and chose God’s path. And let me tell you, I’m positive it worked much better than my original plan.
Jesus, stay near. Forever. Mean it.
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2 thoughts on “I was Ready for a Fight (A Mindset to Overcome Adversity)”
Oh my gosh, you guys did it again. You told the story of Abigail. I will tell you my story of Abigail. When I got out of my marriage I went to the Christian Recovery Center and a new Christian. I told my counselor how I had to get away and I had no money but I could sew. I started a small business with my sewing crafts. I would make the items, take them to small craft stores and they would sell them for me. I started an account at a bank nearby and used a friend’s address as my address and had anything pertaining to my little business sent there. As a new Christian I felt guilty for doing that and keeping it from my husband. Eventually I had enough money saved up so I could leave and I bought a small car and left. The counselor at the Christian Recovery Center assured me that I had not sinned since I was saving myself and my family. She asked me if I knew about Abigail in the bible. I said “no” and she said “Go home and read about her because that is who you are.” I read about her and now I am proud to say that I am an Abigail. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! for reminding me.
We love you, Melinda!